Is anxiety eating away at your life?
People tell you to “put things into perspective,” “take a breath,” and “look on the bright side.” But anxiety still overwhelms you.
Here are 8 truths about anxiety that aren't often talked about. They may shake you up. But if you're ready to hear them, they can change everything.
Truth #1: Anxiety is not a fatality. You are NOT the problem.
Maybe you think or you’ve been told that there's something wrong with you. That you need to "fix" yourself. That's wrong: there are things to care for but nothing to FIX.
Anxiety isn't a malfunction. It's your nervous system doing its job, maybe too well. It's the fire alarm going off for an overcooked cake.
Fear shows up to save us in a life-threatening situation. Doing your admin might be a pain (I'm right there with you) but it’s not a direct physical threat.
Stop treating yourself like a problem to solve. Start treating yourself like a person to support.
Truth #2: "Just relax" is not helpful advice
If you could just relax, you would have done it already. You need safety first (space, person, sensory load).
Telling an anxious person to relax is like telling someone with a broken leg to "just walk it off."
Have you ever told someone to calm down? Did they?
You need actual tools, not patronizing advice.
(If you’ve ever said something like that to someone, please stop).
Truth #3: Medication isn't your only option
Maybe you've been told it's pills or nothing (paracetamol won’t do with this one).
But there are other paths: Bach Flower Remedies, somatic work, nervous system regulation, breathwork.
Natural doesn't mean "less effective." It means gentle, effective, and without side effects.
You deserve to know all your options and make an informed decision for yourself.
Truth #4: Anxiety has a message for you
I know this one sucks a little and that you might hate to hear it but bear with me. It's not random. It's not "just happening."
Anxiety is pointing to something: a boundary crossed, a need unmet, a truth unspoken, a worry that you have turning into “get me out of here” fear.
Until you listen to the message, it will keep screaming louder. And… ouch!
Truth #5: You can't just “think” your way out of it
Anxiety lives in your body, not just your mind.
Analyzing it, understanding it, talking about it, it’s all helpful. But probably not efficient enough.
You need to work with your nervous system, your emotions and identify what invites the anxiety in. Narrative writing can help you with that. My favorite exercise allows you to directly talk to Anxiety.
That's where the real shift happens.
Truth #6: Saying "no" isn't selfish, it's a basic need
You're drowning because you say "yes" to everyone but yourself.
Every time you ignore your needs to please others, your anxiety grows because your body wants to know what's happening. What makes you choose others before its safety and comfort?
Setting boundaries isn't mean. It's necessary. Even if it feels like you’re telling people to f*ck off (and maybe sometimes you should).
The more you do it, the easier it gets. But it takes practice and pushing through the discomfort.
And it's the most loving thing you can do: for yourself AND for others.
You can’t pour from an empty cup, right?
Truth #7: Quick fixes don't exist (I wish though)
No magic pill. No 5-minute miracle cure.
You didn't become anxious overnight. You won't heal overnight either.
But you WILL see progress. Small shifts. Lighter days. Easier breaths.
Trust the process, not the timeline. And remember, healing is not linear, ever (otherwise, it means your brain is on a flatline and nobody wants that).
Truth #8: Healing requires you to show up
I can give you the tools. The remedies. The techniques. The support.
But the only one able to do the hard part of the work is… (drumroll)... YOU.
You need to take the remedies. Do the writing. Practice the breathing. Honor your limits.
You're not alone in this. A support system is very important but it can only watch you try and catch you if you fall.
Some days, showing up is more difficult than others: do your best and if sometimes, your best is surviving the day, that's enough.
You've got this.
If these truths have spoken to you, made you smile, or even made you say “blah blah blah,” know that you can turn your constant storm of anxiety into manageable weather.
Not with a magic wand, but with concrete tools, non-judgmental listening, and support that respects your pace.
Want to move from stormy weather to manageable weather?
I offer Bach flower sessions to support you in regulating your emotions.
• 🌸 Personalized consultation (1 hour)
• 🌸 Selection of flowers tailored to YOUR needs
• 🌸 Personalized bottle prepared according to your needs
• 🌸 Follow-up and adjustments
📍 In my office in Amsterdam or via video call anywhere in the world
👉 Book your appointment here 💬 Or email me at emotionsinbloem@gmail.com to discuss.
Have a wonderful day/evening, see you soon.
Charlotte
Certified Bach Flower Remedies Practitioner
@emotions_in_bloem
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